6 Months with my Wanderkid

Its been very challenging to find time to write again in this blog. I really want to find that spark again to be able to write and read more like before, so I start it again. Since 2 weeks ago, I also start journaling on my book, handwritten. Hopefully I can beat Netflix, Instagram and prioritize time to read book and write more. Here we go!

So yeah, I finally deliver my baby boy 6 days after I wrote my last post before this. We name him “Khalid Aldrich Battuta”. We have been calling him CIKAL since he was inside my womb, me and my husband found it over our bedtime conversation. Thus, we would like to keep calling him with that nickname or shortened by KAL. So we look for name that has Kal in it and we got KALDI / KHALEED / KHALID which means eternal and also inspired by Khalid Bin Walid, one of Muslim leader and a close friend of Nabi Muhammad SAW who famous with his brave to stand and fight for the right thing. We also admire the spirit of Ibn Battuta, A muslim scholar that has been discovering the world, one of the great traveler in that era.. Thats why we agree to put Battuta as his last name so that he can have the spirit of discovering the world like Ibn Battuta ๐Ÿ™‚

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Kal and his dad. We did a bit of tea walking in Ciwidey, Bandung – drove our car in one of a spontaneous morning ๐Ÿ™‚

 

The middle name is quite hard to decide, haha! I try to google and read any kind to search inspiration. I somehow would like to give a bit of classic Indonesian/Java name in the middle so I search for name like Aksara, Kelana, Sandyakala, Sembagi, Anantala, Sembrani, Kalandra ….. But then I also kind of want to put a bit out of Indonesia word in it so that he has option in the future if he would like to be called with any names haha I dont even know if he ever think to do that. So I also think of names like Aldrich, Aidan, Kenzo, Kenzie, …. Then we I give my list to my husband, he said he like Aldrich which means a wise & thoughtful leader. I even share my options to ky close friend and family and they also like Aldrich. OK, Aldrich it is. We confirm his full name in his 7 days old haha it takes time really to pick the name for your kid BUT its so much fun in the process of researching it, I love it!

What is funny is that we still calling him CIKAL and not KHALID (or Aldrich or Battuta) haha. People always ask where cikal comes from? Haha. But we always said to people to call him Kal to make it easy but my close friends call him Cikal ๐Ÿ™‚ It will make Cikal nickname become special because only his parent, his closest aunty, uncle, friends will call him that.

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Kal play at his play area, most of his toy and shelves are DIY by me and my husband haha, we started to love doing DIY Montessori inspired toys

 

Can you believe he is six months and almost 7 months in 19 June? Oh my god, time really flies when you have a baby. Feel like yesterday I deliver him in a small clinic run by an experienced midwive in Kudus, my hometown that now become his hometown too ๐Ÿ™‚ I still remember exactly the situation, what clothes me and my husband wore, and his first rockstar crying that morning at 05.06 AM. It was a very smooth delivery and I have to thank bidankita.com as my main resources to learn about pregnancy and delivering baby that mean to be natural and we as a woman gifted with this amazing human body to be able to deliver baby. I will share my pregnancy until delivering baby journey later in different post (hopefully I got chance ti write it! Its a very amazing journey for me that I never experience before AND I really feel like I reborn again like a superhero in the movie after I succesfully take Cikal out of my womb, haha. But seriously, I enjoy the process, nothing like feeling pain constraction, no screaming, no hitting/biting my husband haha, I even smile when he almost out from my womb.

And look at now, he is already eating, crawling all over the corner, singing his own melody, laughing ‘cekakak cekikik’, but what is stay the same is his wanting for breastfeed, his soft skin, his curly lip (haha this is so unique), his right feet that always go up to my stomach/breast everytime he breastfeeding, his crying, and his attachment to me ๐Ÿ™‚ I am now believe that some of our character / typical is already in our soul even before we born. Your kid can have your character / your husband’s / even your parent or grand grand parents. There is indeed a research about it and maybe we need another post on that hehe.

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I was gardening and he crawl from his play area inside into this!!! ๐Ÿ˜

 

I am so proud of him and I have been telling phim that so many times every time he do something good I say it in detail his progress such as, “Oh, you are now able to crawl and move from your play area to our office! ” Or “Oh you are able to grab your own food in the plate with your finger” , “Hey look at you, take your book from your bookshelves and look like you read it aloud”. I try so hard not to say ” good job! Great job!” And any kind of it as what I learn in Montessori way of parenting is that you dont praise your kid that way so that he will not grow searching for that praise as their motivation to do something BUT an encouragement by saying his making a great progress / work is what Montessori recommend. Ahh so so so many new things to learn when you become a mom and everyday is always new learning. And I love the way Dr. Maria Montessori use to grow our kid so I follow his lessons from books, some Montessori mom practitioner, etc. Its really make parenting much more fun when we learn about the knowledge behind it. Like this month for instance, when I learn about how baby can eat by themselves through Baby-led weaning method and how Montessori approach of eating for baby to include him in every meals time as we eat together in one table

IMG_20200614_082754_1 in one of our morning walk, I babywear him with Baby carrier and walk up the hill to Bukit Awiligar, found this beautiful park and decided to eat our Sourdough here. He loveeee being in nature, he can sit alllll day!

 

Of course there are a lot of downs beside all, the ups. The wake up night baby cry, the early morning wake up, the tired of accompany him everyday, the first 1 month after he born that looks like the worst month ever haha with sleepless night, clueless new parent, baby figure out how to breastfeed, parent figure out what this crying means and how to handle it, and many many other hard days to face. BUT my mantra from a good friend is always in my head: THIS TOO SHALL PASS! ๐Ÿ™‚ and trust me, if you decide to be with your baby 24/7 and taking care of the baby, learning together with the baby, its all worth it ๐Ÿ™‚

Wow its been a very long post and I feel so happy to be able to write this beside Kal that already sleep after having his bedtime story with his dad & breastfeed time with his mom. Please sleep through the night, Cikaaal :))))

Bandung, 17 June 2020 | 20.01

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This morning when he look his dad roasting coffee, he always fascinated with any machine including coffee roasting machine

 

 

Wanderkid inside my womb

Its 13 November and so much has change in my life since a year ago after I got married to my love one. And today, I am sitting in the couch at my parent’s home in my hometown to wait for my other love one to be born to this Mother Earth.

Never imagine that I will be a mom this year, to this upcoming baby boy. Since we acknowledge his presence inside my womb in 27 March on his 7 weeks, this boy has taught me a lot about being a pregnant lady (and beyond that, about life) and preparing to be born new as a mom. Never a second I regret about his presence and day by day I learn more about love. And oh boy, this little one is also restless. Well, the first trimester is the hardest part since I have to adjust with the new hormones, the morning sickness, and feel tired. But after passing those 3 months, this boy give me energy to wander even more. ย Every weekend, I always feel like going on a new adventure to outdoor places.

In fact, a week after we notice that I am pregnant, I have to go to Cambodia for Australia Awards event that already arranged and so here we go our first ever adventure to wander around 4 days in Phnom Penh in his 8 weeks old. Oh, he was just a tiny piece of human being at that time. But I already feel like he is going with me exploring the city.

Then, since then, our weekend is always full of adventure. My husband is very patient and kind enough to always follow this wander mood from hiking to hills & mountain nearby Bandung, trek to several coffee farms, get lost in off the beaten path with motorbike (oh yeah, I am that badass pregnant lady :D), out of town adventure to Jakarta (a lot!), Yogyakarta, Central Java, and other. And we even make it to travel to Bangkok & Chiang Mai in his 4.5 months inside my womb. He is not only love taking adventure, but he is also in love with coffee world (not counted how many coffee farms, mills, coffeeshops, that he is been visiting) and even, he is with us when we are opening our 2 new coffeeshops in Jakarta; Flying Goat Coffee & Aiko Coffee. He is also always with us in every trip with our travel company, Wanderlust Indonesia. Oh boy, you are my truly wanderkid :’)

He might born soon by this week and I imagine right now, he is finding his way to get out from his mommy’s womb to the new world that I believe he will fall in love with. My prayer is that he will be our healthy little explorer, kind to others and brave to stand for the right thing in life. Your mom & dad cannot wait to wander the world together with you, baby. See you soon :”)

 

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A spontaneous photo taken by our barista in Aiko Coffee